A little push over the line

I just got back from having lunch with my husband (one of the perks of working from home:) But today's lunch was different. What made this lunch special was that it was a conscious choice on our part to spend some time together and focus on us. We'd had a significant difference of opinion on some family matters a couple days ago. We both felt very strongly about handling the situation in extremely different ways; this did not exactly bring us closer or make us feel all warm and fuzzy about our relationship - and that's okay. We sorted through things, laid out options and finally found one we can both deal with.

What I really wanted to share with you is what happened after the fact. This morning we realized that we were both standing on a line. One side of the line has all the negative thoughts and the memories of everything our spouse has ever done that annoyed us. The other side of the line has all the positive thoughts and all the memories of all the things that we love and appreciate in our spouse. After a couple days of negotiating and dealing with a lot of frustration we were both standing there on the line. So we chose to spend some time alone together today, just enjoying each other. Nothing huge, just a little push to help move us over to the positive side of the line.

I know it's a small choice, but it's those small choices that define our relationships and our life. What are you choosing?